I don't care who you are or what you do, there are always people who will disappoint you or hurt you in some way! The other day I went to an office to do some business and the woman behind the counter was rude and insensitive to my needs so when I left I was frustrated and hurt. I wanted to hurt her in any way possible. I called her boss and left a message that was never returned so I prepared a list of other higher ups to call to voice my concern about her lack of concern for others and I put it on my list of things to do, but I never did. I ran through our conversation over and over in my head until I was really mad and then suddenly I thought better of it all. Not to say that I was over it but I was ready to let it go and forget about it! Who knows? Maybe she had a bad morning, maybe her cat was sick or maybe she had just lost someone she loved. I really did not know this woman and she did not know me. It was at this point that I started practicing pre-forgiveness. I know how can you forgive someone for something they have not even done to you yet, but let me tell you, it can be done if you just remember that people can be kind of jerky! When they hurt you, and they will, just say to yourself "I forgive you because I don't want the rest of my day to be ruined and I don't want you to control my thought for the rest of the day". Sounds weird I know, but I am practicing it with my husband right now as I type at 11:25 PM ( I will spare you all the gory details)! Oh well, I feel better at any rate and I am going to bed with my mind free and clear.........God can sort the rest out!
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
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Tuesday, October 28, 2008
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Friday, October 24, 2008
I got this in an email today and it really got me to thinking about how I have been reacting to my current situation. Please read:
Carrots, Eggs, & Coffee!
A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again. A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.' 'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?' Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. 'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying. You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you (I JUST DID); to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life. If you don't send it, you will just miss out on the opportunity to brighten someones day with this message! May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!!
I would love to tell you that I am the coffee bean, but alas, that is not who I am right now. I am the egg! I hate to admit it but that is what I have become during this tough time! On the outside I put on a good, strong front but on the inside my heart is hard. I am trying to change on a daily basis but it is a moment by moment decision and sometimes I choose the wrong path.
Who are you today? I pray that you are the coffee bean!
Lord, help us all to be more like the coffee bean!
Posted by Jo at 10/24/2008 12:10:00 PM
Monday, October 20, 2008
Yesterday I was editing photos that I had taken the previous day when my phone rings and on the other end is a sobbing teenager! I am not talking a light sob, I am talking sobbing so hard that I cannot understand him! I just knew that something terrible had happened. After several attempts I finally understand that Salt (his pet rat) has joined his friend Socks in rat heaven and Zach had a hand, well actually a foot in his death. Please try not to laugh but this is how it went down as I understand it: Zach and his BFF Bre were at the park with their pet rats and they were playing on the merry-go-round. Some how Salt ended up on the ground and Zach was horsing around with Bre and stepped on him! From Salt's perspective, I would have to imagine that this would be like seeing the foot of God coming at you since Zach has a size 14 foot! Zach was totally distraught that he had killed his rat and that if he had not been horsing around, it never would have happened! The boy has such a tender heart for small, furry creatures and he would never hurt one intentionally! He just doesn't understand that these things happen sometimes! Well, needless to say, after a trip to the pet store he is now the proud owner of two little girl rats. One is named Luna and I forget the other one. Welcome to the family girls! I hope you survive the year!
Posted by Jo at 10/20/2008 10:36:00 AM
Saturday, October 18, 2008
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Friday, October 17, 2008
Do you ever wonder if anyone knows the REAL you? This has been on my mind a lot as of late and I have to admit that it is really consuming my mind at this point! I know who I am but I know that people rarely see that part of me that I consider to be the real me. Most people know us by what we do, here is my list of what I think people see: wife, mother, photographer, singer, friend. This is what I am that people see on a daily basis but these are things I DO, NOT who I am! I realized all of this on Wednesday evening! Spencer and I had been in a meeting with Pastor Lou and I realized that we were both very reserved and quiet (not like me at all) when the meeting was over I had to immediately go to praise team practice and that is where it really hit me: I AM NOT QUIET AND RESERVED AT ALL! We were rockin' the praise and worship music and I was jumping around like a 16 year-old and having a wonderful time! I was being my fun loving, outgoing old self, someone that I had not seen for quite some time and I LOVED IT! I want to be that me all the time! I am not saying that I can't be reserved when needed because I know what is appropriate and what isn't, all I'm saying is, why should I hide the real me? I DON'T and I WON'T! Life is too short to pretend to be something we are not! I am not sorry for who I am and I am not sorry that the REAL me is going to reclaim her rightful place in my life! I don't mean to offend anyone but that quiet, shy person is not the REAL me and she is now gone forever!! Perhaps I need to spend a month or two with my older sister, Debbie! She is bold and outgoing, that is just who she is! Maybe a lesson or two is order for the real me to shine through!
LIFE IS SHORT! Have fun and enjoy it while you can but remember to do so within reason because God is ALWAYS watching! Have a great weekend!!
Posted by Jo at 10/17/2008 09:22:00 AM
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
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Monday, October 13, 2008
I have been reading "Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert and I suggest that all women read it! I have found it very eye opening to say the least! Part of what I read today is as follows:
Elizabeth: "I am not laughing." I was actually crying. "And please don't laugh at me now, but I think the reason it's hard for me to get over this guy is because I seriously thought David was my soul mate."
Richard: "He probably was. Your problem is you don't understand what that word means. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it."
Have you had a person in your life that you thought was your soul mate? Is that person still in your life or have they left you? Sometimes I wonder why God brings people into our lives and then I realize that people are like seasons, they come into our lives for a reason and then they are gone. I have several relationships that are just like that (both male and female). They were there at a point in my life when I needed them and then, subtly and without warning, they were gone (moved, died, just lost contact). I often wonder how we "lose" these friendships. Do they not care? Do I not care? No, I think we just change and drift apart! There really is no fault to be placed, it just happens! Will our paths cross again? Maybe so, God willing and then again maybe not!
Posted by Jo at 10/13/2008 01:49:00 PM
I am really in no mood to write, clean, take pictures or anything else that requires any effort so I am taking the easy way out today! To the left I have posted a video of my sister and her husband at a go-kart track having fun! This in not really the place I picture my sister hanging out but it was for work and I know she was "forced" to go!
You will notice some other changes to the blog, including some ads. I get paid to have these on my site so click on them and check them out (for me) ;)! I will also start blogging for money soon so you may see some reviews of books or products. Just thought I would give you a heads up so you are not surprised by some of the changes!
Enjoy the video!
Posted by Jo at 10/13/2008 10:41:00 AM
Saturday, October 11, 2008
OK, OK, I know I am getting behind again but there is a good reason, no a great reason! You see I have been fighting with my computer on a daily basis and I finally surrendered to the will of the great computer and purchased more RAM for it. I didn't want to but I had to! It seems like in order to make money you first have to spend money. It would not have been so urgent except for the fact that I have booked some photo shoots over the next few weeks and the computer is an important part of the end process! I will eventually have a super computer (no not quite like the one at the Department of Defense), but one that I can dedicate to my business only, one that does not have millions of songs and pictures on it, one that my son and my husband have NO access to and finally, one that will sufficiently run all the applications that I utilize while editing pictures (I want to make everyone look their absolute best). No it won't be cheap but I should be able to pay for it after a few million photo sessions! I just wanted to let you know what I was up to and why!
Tomorrow after church we will be decorating Sadie's pumpkin with face tattoos! She picked the pumpkin out herself and is very excited to decorate it and put it out with Mommy's mums! I will let you know how it all goes complete with pictures if possible!
Posted by Jo at 10/11/2008 09:07:00 PM
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
http://www.pictureperfecttoo.com/ This is what has been taking up so much of my time lately! I finally got the website done and published between funerals this week! Yeah for me!! It was a lot of hard work even with a copy of "Websites for Dummies" open on the desk next to me. It was also extremely hard because 19 month olds want to mimic what mommy is doing and, as of late, that has been lots of computer work! I would be diligently working away when all of a sudden I would have an extra hand or two tapping on the keys with me! She is fun but it can be very frustrating when you are working on a deadline (all be it self imposed)!
My house has been neglected and the laundry needs caught up and well..........there is just a lot that needs to be done that has been put on the back burner! Now I can get back to my regular work, ugh!
Posted by Jo at 10/08/2008 03:55:00 PM
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
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Saturday, October 4, 2008
I feel like I have been sitting at this computer for years! OK, I'll admit that is stretching it quite a bit bit I have been at the computer for a couple of hours now and frankly, I am tired of it (the computer)! I am working on my web site for my photography business and it is quite time consuming! I am almost done and should have it out on the web on Monday (God willing)! I am taking some family photos of our friends tomorrow evening and will get them edited and uploaded so I can get them on the site in time for launch! Whew, I guess this means that I am really starting MY OWN business! It's kind of scary but really exciting at the same time! I even ordered a bigger lens for my camera, so if you need any PI work done I could probably do it for you (ha!ha!).
I am trying my hardest to get everything done because we have 2 funerals this week. Spencer lost an uncle and a great uncle (both yesterday)! One he was close to, the other he was not but we feel that we need to attend out of respect to the other family members. I also have a 2ND cousin, Cheryl, who is in the hospital in Springfield and it is touch and go at this point. Please keep her family in your prayers!
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Friday, October 3, 2008
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Thursday, October 2, 2008
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Wednesday, October 1, 2008
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